Anytime a confrontation is required there is a strong probability of losing someone. If you and the person you must confront are not both emotionally mature enough to handle a confrontation with open honesty, hear each other out, consider the others point of view and reach an amicable compromise, most likely you will lose someone. The question is, will you lose yourself, or will you lose the other person.
Unfortunately, most people are not capable of such emotionally intelligent interaction, especially not on a personal level. So the question becomes, are you willing to lose the other person in order to preserve your own since of self, your own emotional well-being, and your own emotional health?
I was so afraid of losing Alan, that I lost myself in our confrontations in order to keep him.
I don’t know where that leaves me. I only know that everything written up to here is true…